Too bad all of us didn't follow his rule. And now all of us will have to pay for breaking it.
I think it's time for a Father's Day post.
What? You say it isn't Father's Day? True, but I'm not much on such "days," believing that they were created more to put money in some one's pocket rather than honor a Father, or Mother or the birthday of Christ.
But I think of him a lot, the older I get the more so. Born into a middle class environment, he saw that disappear with the Depression. And while banks even then were probably cutting special deals for Senators, a la Dodd and Hussein and Conrad, no one was cutting any special deals for the common man. At least not until Roosevelt.
So his formal education was cut short but he loved books and newspapers and because of that tolerated his oldest reading anything and everything in sight. He loved to hunt and he loved dogs. There's a picture of him with his dog and his shotgun. He would grin and say that he had no shells for the gun but carried it because the dog expected it. He loved jokes but his humor was gentle and I have often seen him dance around the warm morning stove in the morning, just pleased to be alive and in the world.
There were no jobs, just farming, timbering and working in a "store." So he went to Roosevelt's CCC camp and sent money home to the family while working to build roads and parks. It was hard physical labor with actual things done. No "organizing," no "midnight" basketball. Just work. And that was precious and meant something.
Later he met my Mom and they married and I came along. Having nothing they became sharecroppers and lived in a shotgun house. When WWII came along he was 36 and it was unlikely he would have been drafted. Yet he joined the Marines and served in the Pacific. He never discussed his service and refused to see any war movies. But he was always a Marine and had a disdain for the Army that was only partially hidden.
He was Scot Irish tough but would give you anything he had if you asked. Family came first followed by friends and country. Politicians and police were not to be trusted although both groups were required. He taught me that it was "Yes Sir and No Sir and Thank You Sir Please." He never lectured about segregation, but the "N" word was not allowed. It was "Colored People" or "Negro" and the greeting of respect was used without exception to race. Both may be out of favor now but remember this was in the early fifties.
He learned to be a machinist and my Mom worked in a local garment factory. They bought and paid for a farm and they retired comfortably, yet he never wanted to quit working. He worked a few years with the University on demonstration projects and could drive you around the county and show you the results. We have to grow more food he would say. Simple and direct and spot on. I don't have to wonder what he would think about using corn for ethanol while people in the third world are going hungry. "Who in the hell is doing that?" he would demand, even though he knew.
He never had a major health problem, yet at age 75 stood up one morning while at a friend's place of business and announced, "I feel bad." He died on the spot the same way he lived, quietly and with little fuss.
It broke my heart but I have since come to understand there are much worse ways to die. He was a Common Man that did much with very little. The country used to have millions of them. But there appear to be damn few left. We suffer because of that.
Beautiful! Thank you for sharing. A very unique man. Yet, as you say, many of those strong, self-made men in those days. Few of them today. Anywhere. People like mon père have disappeared too. So sad...
ReplyDeleteMy old man was a machinist by trade as well Jim. He learned the trade in prison. Though innocent of the charge for which he was convicted, he would be the first to admit he was on the wrong side of the right a few times in his youth. But once my oldest brother was born, his redemption was complete, and he remained the most stand-up of stand-up guys for the rest of his years. Always bringing home a local hobo for Thanksgiving and Christmas Dinner, always there for friends and family, stern and no nonsense as a parent, but always granting his kids the freedom to make their own mistakes and find their path. Working class salt of the earth through and through...I miss him, but know he's inside of me.
ReplyDeleteGood piece Jim...here's a toast to all the dads doing right the best they can!
- kdog
Claudia - Thank you. You are very kind.
ReplyDeletekdog - Yeah, I understand the "stern" but "let you." He brooked no sass but I never had any doubts about his love and support. He didn't talk very much but showed me everything about tools and tractors and animal husbandry.. I could always get a ride into town if "the library" was my destination.
ReplyDeleteA man of few words...I can relate to that too. He tried to teach me my way around a tool-box, but little of it took, I don't have the natural ability for it that he did, of course now I wish I had paid closer attention.
ReplyDeleteHe would say I worked a drum like he worked a machine...I could see the pride in his eye the first (and last) time he saw me up on stage at some dingy club making music.
They sound very alike in some ways...
- kdog